This is a nice song. The lead singer of Sanctus Real, Matt Hammitt tells the story:
“My wife, Sarah, and I once heard that the gap between reality and expectations is disappointment. There was a time when we were living in disappointment with our marriage. Now, we can see that our conflict was the result of our greatest expectations being placed on each other as opposed to God. I wasn’t investing enough emotionally or spiritually into my family because my own well was dry. I wasn’t walking as closely with the Lord as I believed I was at the time.
I wrote the majority of the song “Lead Me” on the day that Sarah appealed to me to be a better leader. The cry of her heart also became mine. Her courage to lovingly challenge me as her leader not only led to a song that is encouraging men and marriages around the world, but also has led to the most satisfying season of our nine year marriage to date.”
The strength to be a husband like that comes not from mere moralism, but by dependence and a knowledge of how Christ was the perfect example of one. While he wasn’t married in an earthly sense, he loved his Bride, the Church, to the point of death on a cross (Eph 5:25-27).
That’s a lesson I’ll never stop learning…